Sunday, July 19, 2009

Where to begin?

Wow. I really don't know where to begin to catch up on this blog. But I feel like I need to. I feel like it helps me to write it down and let it go. It makes the "growing process" more official, more real. And ultimately that's what life is all about isn't it...growth. Some take it more seriously than others mind you...because we all know of people who seem totally and hopelessly stuck in their 2ND grade/high school/sorority girl stage.

Back to MY growth...

True fact: My children are an extension of me.
Analysis: People in the world see a child as a reflection/extension of the parent. Be it good or bad...what that child does, the parent played a hand. Honestly, right now this sucks for me. And its painful. I've always had a hard time with the whole "I married T-Dad so for some reason people think we "think" alike." Uh, no, that's not true. But now my children's behavior...aargh. I am looking forward to that time when my son graduates with honors OR is voted MVP for his lacrosse team and people congratulate "me" for raising such a fine lad.

True fact: A stay-at-home mom is responsible for the cleanliness of the home.
Analysis: Wow. That's a lot. And I admit, not my strong suit. But buckaroos...I can change. I am taking on a 30 day challenge to stay ON TOP OF the dishes and the laundry. Watch me fly.

True fact: T-Dad is wimpy when he's sick.
Analysis: I can't change this so I better get over it.

4 comments:

Looseyfur said...

I've missed reading your blog!

1) I had to remove my child from a town for being an absolute brat the other day. The embarrassment that I'm a failure as a mother because of my child's behavior was all over my face.

2) I run my fucking dishwasher 2-3 times a day. It's annoying as hell.

As for number 3 -- Where have all the manly cowboys gone?

~rachel~ said...

Welcome back to the blogworld. Rowan said he really missed you (by name!) and your kids the other day! :)
I hate cleaning too, are you doing fly lady or something?

Mary A. said...

OK- First, thanks for the Lacrosse shout out. He won "best team spirit" his year. If you read between the lines that's "Best Benchwarmer". Sometimes you take what you can get.

Second- your children are an extension of you but they are also their own people and most of the time they are people you wouldn't choose to hang around but you need to know that weather or not he's an MVP or an honor student as long as you raise him to say "please" (which I have heard) and "thank you" (which I have received)and he knows how to smile and laugh then you have raised a fine lad. I can only speak up to age 15 but really kids are very unpleasant people to be around--it's when you don't deal with the situation and they still suck as adults that your parenting can be called into question. The fact that you are questioning and dealing with it means that you are doing a fine, fine job. And you ARE doing just fine.

#2-If you live and eat in the house you are responsible as your age dictates. 10-15 minutes at a time. use your timer- screw the shoe and make up BS

#3- I said it once i'll say it again--Booze.

Lavender Lemonade said...

Looseyfur-good advice about the dishwasher, I will RUN it at will...:)
Rachel-T-dad and I are both assign a couple of daily chores...so far we've kept up...its been 2 days.
Mary A.- Yep, that Lacrosse comment was all you. :) And I need more booze, its official.